How do you want to die?

Death is too often a scary, chaotic and isolating event.

It doesn’t have to be that way.

A Thoughtful Death is changing modern death culture by helping people celebrate their unique lives in intentional ways that lead to thoughtful death experiences and meaningful grief rituals. By being honest about what’s important to us, planning ahead and tapping into community, we can nurture deaths that better reflect our values.

Let’s set the scene for a death that honors who you are.

A Thoughtful Death is humbled to be a 2024 Intentionalist Awards finalist! I’m grateful for this affirmation of how important cultural deathcare is đŸ§¡

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Neshia, a brown skinned woman with shoulder length black locs, smiles at the camera. She is wearing glasses, orange and gold dangly earrings, a white and blue striped blouse, blue jeans and a watch. A brick wall is behind her.

Photo by: Steven Zhang

As an End-of-Life Consultant, I support people facing death so that they are less isolated, have the information to make more informed choices and get the chance to honor all of who they are. Whether you are planning ahead to get your affairs in order, are bracing for an imminent death or are grieving, deathcare is for you. You don’t have to do this alone.

People ask me all the time why I choose to work with death and grief. The answer is this: from a young age, I knew that I and the people I love will die. I want the dying, the ultimate transition, to be as special as the relationships themselves.

Talofa lava! My name is Neshia.

Deathcare is for everyone at every stage of life.

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    End-of-Life Preparation

    Preparing for your death ahead of time allows you and your community to focus on what matters most when you need it the most: being together at the end of your life. Let’s document your wishes for a thoughtful death.

    Start Planning
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    Speaking & Teaching

    Are you looking for a skilled professional to facilitate a conversation about death or grief? Neshia brings 15+ years of experience as a speaker and trainer for family circles, faith groups, non-profits and corporations.

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    Celebrations & Ceremonies

    Do you want one final hurrah with your favorite people before you die? A memorial for a community member? A special ritual to mark the anniversary of a death? This is a great opportunity to honor your life and culture.

    Let's Create Together
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I specialize in working with:

  • BIPOC and multiracial families wanting to fully incorporate their culture and traditions into their death care

  • Younger adults (20s-40s) curious about End-of-Life planning with an experienced, non-judgmental peer

  • Adult children/grandchildren/chosen family caregiving for someone at end-of-life

  • Families experiencing child loss

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Kind Words from

A Thoughtful Death Clients

  • "I reached out to Neshia when my husband's grandmother was passing away and he needed help processing his grief in advance. She took us on and we met several times before his grandma died to work through grief. She came to our home to sit with us the day after she passed and it ended up being incredibly cathartic for myself and my husband. She went above and beyond to make sure we felt supported despite not having a caring community of our own. I have also taken a virtual grief class through A Thoughtful Death. It was informative and freeing. I can't recommend Neshia enough.

    - Bee W.

  • "I feel like your calmness and acceptance really allowed people to pause, open up and sit with their grief. In return, I feel closer with my community."

    - Rebecca K., Seattle Human Services Department - Change Team

  • "Working with Neshia was a wonderful experience. I booked an event for my organization and Neshia was intentional of the needs of those who were showing up. She brought kindness, compassion and intentional care. She listened and helped everyone feel seen and heard. Neshia is an incredibly special person and she holds space in a warm, kind and considerate way. I would recommend Neshia from A Thoughtful Death for any grief and death related needs."

    - Lauren W., Doulas 4 All Coalition

  • "It was a "Change Team" Event of our department in the community center. The Guest Speaker was so excellent in the delivery of her presentation particularly the "Miss You" Poem. The Group Activity of writing our own short poem of grief was so effective and powerful. Believe it or not, I also felt the grief of both the living and the "spirits" who resided in that historical building, so a Sincere Prayer has been offered privately. Thank you so much."

    - Fe S

Let’s Connect

Email
neshia@athoughtfuldeath.com

Where I Serve
South Seattle + surrounding areas as well as virtual options

Phone
(206) 866-5455

Thank you to The BLK. Creative for her logo design work.

Please note that as an End-of-Life Consultant, all information is for educational purposes only, and is not intended to provide medical, legal, or financial advice. A Thoughtful Death LLC focuses on preparing individuals, families and organizations to make more informed choices during terminal illness, the dying process, and bereavement. The professional death worker role is unlicensed and unregulated. Please contact your healthcare provider, attorney and/or accountant for more personalized advice for your specific situation.